4th July 2010 (19)
LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT
I am not sure whether it is the Islamic law or tradition that a Muslim has to
marry a Muslim. It was a love at first sight for both me and my husband
when I was eighteen years old. I brought him home to see my mother
after going out with him for a year or so. My mother did not like him and
the reason on the surface was that my husband did not bring her a
present, like fruits or chocolate as it was his first visit to our house. She
came to the conclusion that he would not be a person who respected
seniors. My husband was then only twenty-two years old and might not
know the proper etiquette for such social contact. Later I learned that the
true reason for my mother not liking my husband was that she wanted me
to marry a Muslim who was related to our family. She strongly objected to
me marrying my husband. On the other hand, when my father knew what
my mother was encouraging me to marry my Muslim relative, he opposed
to it, not because she was unreasonable, but because he did not like that
family. It was such an unhappy time for me. At long last, in one morning, I
went to see an aunt whom my mother respected very much and told her
of the story. She was very sympathetic and later that day she talked to
my mother and convinced her that I should be allowed to choose whom I
wanted to marry. Just after I got married, I realised that I was on the
verge of nervous breakdown. However with the loving care of my
husband, the illness did not deteriorate. Up to today, I am strongly
against that religion should not be in the marriage equation. We are now
happily married for over 40 years.
After I got married, my two other younger sisters were as free as birds.
One even flirted with western married men and both of them lost their
virginity before marriage. In the 1960's sex before marriage was not
widely practised and not common in those days.
Yuen-yee
LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT
I am not sure whether it is the Islamic law or tradition that a Muslim has to
marry a Muslim. It was a love at first sight for both me and my husband
when I was eighteen years old. I brought him home to see my mother
after going out with him for a year or so. My mother did not like him and
the reason on the surface was that my husband did not bring her a
present, like fruits or chocolate as it was his first visit to our house. She
came to the conclusion that he would not be a person who respected
seniors. My husband was then only twenty-two years old and might not
know the proper etiquette for such social contact. Later I learned that the
true reason for my mother not liking my husband was that she wanted me
to marry a Muslim who was related to our family. She strongly objected to
me marrying my husband. On the other hand, when my father knew what
my mother was encouraging me to marry my Muslim relative, he opposed
to it, not because she was unreasonable, but because he did not like that
family. It was such an unhappy time for me. At long last, in one morning, I
went to see an aunt whom my mother respected very much and told her
of the story. She was very sympathetic and later that day she talked to
my mother and convinced her that I should be allowed to choose whom I
wanted to marry. Just after I got married, I realised that I was on the
verge of nervous breakdown. However with the loving care of my
husband, the illness did not deteriorate. Up to today, I am strongly
against that religion should not be in the marriage equation. We are now
happily married for over 40 years.
After I got married, my two other younger sisters were as free as birds.
One even flirted with western married men and both of them lost their
virginity before marriage. In the 1960's sex before marriage was not
widely practised and not common in those days.
Yuen-yee
